Sunday, February 8, 2009
This is excellent
I got this off the "This Is War ~ Grief" website I linked over with my links. Geez, it's exactly what we're going through. I can pretty much check off having felt every single issue listed.
issues unique to survivors
- Isolation, helplessness in a world that is seen as hostile and uncaring, and that frequently blames the victim;
- Feelings of guilt for not having protected the victim;
- The memory of a mutilated body at the morgue, how much did my loved one suffer?
- Getting back the personal belongings of a murder victim;
- Sensational and/or inaccurate media coverage;
- Lack of information;
- Seemingly endless grief;
- Loss of ability to function on the job, at home or in school, etc.;
- The strain on marriages (frequently resulting in divorce);
- Strain on family relationships;
- Effects on health, faith and values;
- Effects on other family members, children, friends, co-workers, etc.;
- Indifference of the community, including professionals, to the plight of survivors;
- Society's attitude regarding murder as a form of entertainment;
- Financial burden of medical and funeral expenses;
- Medical expenses for stress related illnesses;
- Professional counseling for surviving family members;
- Financial burden of hiring private investigators, etc.;
- Public sympathy for murderers;
- The feeling that the murderer, if found, gets all the help;
- Survivors of homicide victims have few rights;
- Outrage about the leniency of the murderer's sentence;
- Disparities in the judicial system (frequently punishments for property crimes are as great or greater than the crime of taking a human life);
- Anger over a plea bargain arrangement/agreement;
- Frustration at not being allowed inside the courtroom at the time of trial;
- Unanswered questions about the crime. What happened?
- Unanswered questions about postponements and continuous delays throughout the trial;
- Bitterness and loss of faith in the American criminal justice system;
- After conviction, the long appeals process begins; and
- Constantly reliving your story through the dreaded parole process.
© 1995, National Organization of Parents of Murdered Children, Inc
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